First blog post
Happiness is a choice.
Don’t believe me? Think about this. We all have good and bad in our lives, because…its LIFE. That’s just how things are. It’s pretty easy to identify bad events. We just KNOW what bad looks like, and sometimes we have no control of it happening to us. We know it when we see it. Or do we?
Things that look bad on the surface, can indeed BE bad, and sometimes bad is simply bad. (I’m not a Pollyanna after all.) But if you believe as I do that our thoughts create our reality, those “bad” things, if viewed in a different light, can turn out to be something very positive.
Happiness can come in unexpected ways, even if we first see it as “bad”. Take my friend Joy for instance. She recently missed her return flight from vacation. She was just MINUTES late, but the airline wouldn’t allow her to board! What a hassle! At least it would have been for many people, ruining an otherwise wonderful vacation.
Well, Joy’s luggage did go back to North Carolina without her, so she had to scramble to buy some intermin items just to make do. It WAS inconvenient, and a big potential negative, unless you know the blessings that came along with her bad luck. Turns out, she was able to stay the extra days with her friend in Maui. MAUI Hawaii! She’d been visiting that friend on Maui, one of the most beautiful places on earth! In addition to having more time to enjoy with her friend, the delay gave them the ability to catch an exciting helicopter flight over the island! Her “misfortune” turned into several additional days in paradise! Bad or good? I know how Joy feels about it! Joy could have chosen anger and frustration at her unexpected change of plans. But, knowing Joy (and seeing those beautiful photos of her smiling face during the helicopter trip) I KNOW she chose happiness!
Happiness IS a choice. Any situation can elicit anger or frustration if we choose. OR, if we decide to consciously find a positive in the thing, the experience we end up with can be completely different — and even happy! It’s all in how we choose to feel and respond. Yes crap happens. It’s life. But we don’t have to hold onto our belief that the crap situation needs to be crap in our lives forever. We do have a choice.
Life offers a series of challenges and opportunities every day. It’s up to us to decide which one we experience. We can decide a situation is terrible, like missing a flight from Hawaii to the mainland but only a minute or two, or we can look at the same situation as a gift.